Moon Over Mojave

Photo on 2009-11-28 at 09.56 Another Thanksgiving bites the dust. Rich and I are somewhere on I-40 between Needles, CA and Barstow, CA. Thanks to my Sprint broadband wireless modem, I am finally posting once again to the blog. We spent the week in Santa Fe (Rich had never been), and our lips and throats are cracked from the dryness. Hello humidity!!

I think the dogs had a better vacation than we did – it’s not often that they go leash-less for an entire week. Well, we are now 77 miles east of Barstow and my computer is down to 17% battery – kinda like me turning 44.


CSI: Joe.My.God

jmgright Fellow gay blogger Joe Jervis has appeared all over the national media today in response to anti-gays calling the FBI regarding “threatening” messages at Joe.My.God. Last week, several commenters on Joe’s site responded to Christian fundamentalists (and the defeat of marriage equality in Maine). The first commenter suggests that he would hate to see violence replace the years of peaceful gay rights protests. Another commenter follows up with a joke about violence not being a bad idea at all. Apparently, some took offense to the comments and reported the comments to the FBI.

Today’s Village Voice summarized the situation:

It started when JMG encouraged his readers to book seats at the anti-gay Americans For Truth About Homosexuality annual banquet, presumably as a prank. “Homosexual Hate Site Targets AFTAH Staffer for Phone Harassment,” responded Americans for Truth.

The October 24 banquet passed without incident, though there were some protests outside: Illinois Review claimed “gay activists lined the street,” then reproduced a pictured of about seven people with P-flags. “It’s about to get just a little harder to be a Christian in America,” keynote speaker Matt Barbour of Liberty Counsel told the banqueters.

That seemed to be that until Monday, when Americans for Truth reported “Homosexual Activists on ‘Joe.My.God.’ Blog Warn of Gay ‘Domestic Terrorism’ against Pro-Family Leaders including LaBarbera, Gallagher… Gay writer says ‘well-organized terrorism’ against pro-family leaders is ‘just what we need.’”

A careless reader might think Jervis had made the remarks, but AFTAH was referring to JMG commenters, who said things like “Maybe a bit of well-organized terrorism is just what we need,” “Will someone please give me a gun?” and “There will be radicals who will begin to hunt down haters like LaBarbera and Gallagher” vis a vis anti-gay crusaders Peter LaBarbera and Maggie Gallagher.

Joe removed the comments in question and warned readers that the blog is read and watched closely; he later removed the blog post entirely. The right-wing Americans for Truth has the post in its entirety here.

As this story grows in the media, Joe has made the rounds of the media circus today. Joe, my support goes out to you. But, Joe, you are right – nothing is ever private on the Internets these days. I only wish I had reported all the threatening comments I’ve received over the years here at DanNation – everything from “burning in hell” to many verses regurgitated from Leviticus verses. Ugh.

Goodbye, Maine

YesOn1rejoices By now, we all know that “Yes on 1″ won in Maine last night – eliminating the rights of gays and lesbians to marry in that state. I also grew up in Maine and consider the state my home.

I don’t know how else to summarize my feelings today except with anger. The gloating Jesus freaks in this photo (which appeared in the Bangor Daily News today) infuriates me. It is hurtful to see these people gloat over their vote on my family and relationship. I wonder if they would have the same glee if we had voted their marriages, families and relationships null and void.

I have to say that after the 53% to 47% win for “traditional marriage” (according to a white and Christian group), it will be difficult for me to return home. I don’t even know where to go in the same-sex marriage movement – the Maine “No on 1″ campaign was well funded, volunteered by many (including straight allies), and the “No on 1″ team confronted the lies and deceitful messaging of the opposing side quite well. Lessons had been learned and applied from Prop 8 here in California.

For the anti-gays, this movement is much more than marriage. I read Pam’s House Blend today where she shared the reaction of Matt Barber:

Witness the reaction of Matt “Bam Bam” Barber. Read it; I know you don’t want to, but you need to see the level of hate that propelled discrimination to a victory – historians will pore over this filth decades from now, and wonder how could anyone find satiety in this level of bigotry:

Matt Barber, Director of Cultural Affairs with both Liberty Counsel and Liberty Alliance Action, issued the following statement on news that the voters of Maine have rejected counterfeit “same-sex marriage” by 53% – 47%:

“There’s good news and bad news here,” said Barber. “The good news is that even in one of the most liberal States in the Union, Maine, the people have once again rejected the ridiculous and oxymoronic notion of ‘same sex marriage.’ The momentum has again shifted – hopefully for good this time – in favor of protecting legitimate marriage. A counterfeit is a counterfeit. An orange is an orange no matter how much you want it to be a turnip. This isn’t about ‘marriage.’ It’s about hurting and broken people desperately seeking affirmation of an objectively deviant lifestyle. One that, even in their heart of hearts, they know to be a dead end. As for the militant ‘No on 1′ homosexual activists? I’m reminded of spoiled children dressing up and playing house, refusing to come in when mom calls for dinner.

“Here’s the bad news. The margin of victory could have been greater. Many behind the ‘Yes on 1′ campaign, rather than simply telling the truth, chose the Neville Chamberlain approach. They merely circled the wagons around the word ‘marriage,’ even suggesting that ‘domestic partnerships’ (‘gay marriages’ by another name) are acceptable. This makes no sense. If that’s a viable compromise, then why not simply allow ‘gay’ duos the word ‘marriage’? It’s an incongruity that demands an explanation. This is an historic battle for the minds and souls of our children – for our very culture. The mealy-mouthed approach must end. This is not just about ‘marriage.’ It has everything to do with forced affirmation of homosexuality – under penalty of law. Indeed everyone who fought hard to defend marriage in Maine is to be congratulated, but if it weren’t for a brave group of truth tellers – Paul Madore, Peter LaBarbera and Brian Camenker – who came to Maine in the final hour to hold a press conference and address the pink elephant in the room – homosexual deviancy and the radical ‘gay’ agenda – counterfeit marriage might have prevailed.”

He’s right – this movement isn’t about marriage. It’s about putting us back in our closets so the right (or the left) won’t have to deal with us. I don’t think I will be able to visit Maine for awhile. I can’t attend a high school reunion without thinking that half the people there voted against me and my relationship. I won’t be able to look relatives in the face for fear that they went out of their way to disapprove of me.

When I was home in June, my mother told me that my brother “doesn’t want to see you because of the ‘way you are.’” My response was: “You mean Ivy-League educated, self-supporting, smart with a great career?”

“You know what I mean,” she told me in a phone conversation.


“It’s against his politics,” she responded.

Well, there you go. My brother is choosing the Republican Party over his brother. And now this vote. And the “pink elephant in the room.”

There’s only one thing I can say. Fuck you, Maine!

Day of Truth…

maine_same_sex_marriage_t_shirt-p2354074542023471563lnj_400 …and my stomach is churning. Today is Election Day. In Maine, same-sex marriage, which was approved by a vote of the state legislature in May 2009, is up for a “People’s Veto” today. Known as the “Yes on 1″ referendum, the polls have shown an even split for voters leading up to today. The news is good with voter turnout exceeding 35% — the more voters who show up, the more likely it is that same-sex marriage will become a reality in Maine.

The marriage equality folks have outspent the anti-gay groups and much more grassroots efforts have taken place than did with California’s Prop 8. With the same groups involved, much of the advertising was recycled. I do know that Mainers don’t appreciate out-of-state “flatlanders” all that much. I do know that native Mainers, although they may agree or disagree with a proposed law, resent outsiders telling them how to vote. Combine that with the many lies about “homosexual marriages being taught in schools” and that gay marriage will disrupt civilization as we know it, I am hoping anti-bigotry prevails.

If you are in Maine and reading this, get out and vote “No on 1.” Our freedom and civil rights depend on it. A loss for marriage equality in Maine today will set us back tremendously and we will see repeals of marriage equality in other states (through a public vote process).