Lesson of the day: Holiday Parties – trim your invite lists!

My living room somewhat decorated for the holidays. My digital camera sucks and maybe Santa will bring a new one?!?

So, I get a particular party invitation every year. In fact, every year since 1997. This guy I used to work with in my dot.com past sends this email out once or twice a year for his “parties.” I haven’t spoken to him since mid-2000 (not because we had a fight or anything, but because he left the company I worked for). This invitation frightens me, and I have never attended. The host (names have been changed here to protect the innocent) weighs over 400 lbs, and the thought of hottubbing with him in a “clothing-optional” hot tub gives me the heebie-jeebies. I sat next to him when we went to see the first “Star Wars” film in the late ’90s. I remember that he spilled out over his seat and our bodies touched in strange locations. He also smelled bad. We never really hit it off as friends, either. And he still sends me these for every party he hosts. Of course, I will remind you that I haven’t lived in California since 2001.

I know – yell at me for being obese-insenstive. I could care less about people’s weight, though. I’m sorry if I made it seem the point. Hell, look at my own fluctuations over the years (low: 162 lbs; high: 198 lbs; now: 172 lbs) I guess what I’m saying is that if you don’t have contact and/or respond to communications from people for over 5 years, don’t you drop them off the invite list?

I still get the shivers when I see this in my inbox.

To: dan@XXXXX.com
From: XXXX@XXXXX.com
Subject: Not-Quite-New-Year’s-Eve Party at XXXX’s, FRIDAY 30 Dec 05, 6pm

Continuing my tradition of seldom throwing a New Year’s Eve party actually _on_ New Year’s Eve, I’ve decided to throw this year’s party on the night BEFORE New Year’s Eve: FRIDAY, 30 Dec 05, 6pm til whenever…

Details (yes, if you’ve ever gotten one of my party invitations before, you’ve seen all this before! :-) :

EAT: I’ll provide basic munchies, and I trust that some
folks will bring interesting things to share or prepare
(the house has a first class kitchen, far in excess of my
meager talents, if you want to bring anything and prepare
it here). And the big gas barbecue grill will be available
on the back patio…

DRINK: choose from a selection of beverages, both with and
without alcohol, or bring something interesting to share.

BE MERRY: Enjoy a relaxing evening with a bunch of interesting
folks, some of whom you’ll already know, and some of whom you
haven’t yet met. Amuse yourselves with the billiards table,
dart board, and hot tub (bathing suits are optional, but it would definitely be a good idea to bring a towel).

Feel free to bring friends, spouses, significant others, and so forth; interesting new people to meet are always welcome. If you want to pass the invitation along to somebody else, but you won’t be arriving with them, please check with me first. Also, please beware that, while kids are welcome, my house is nowhere near child-safe, so you’ll need to keep a close eye on them. There are no pets here to tickle the allergies of those of you so afflicted.

There’s no need for you to bring anything but yourselves; plenty of food and drink will be provided. However, if you want to bring something special to share, please do! RSVPs are appreciated (so that I know how much food and drink to procure), but not essential; don’t let lack of an RSVP keep you from joining us!

My house is at XXXXXXX, just off XXXXXX, in downtown

Hope to see you here!


The Three Question Personality Test

These tests tend to get me pretty close.

Your Personality Is

Artisan (SP)
You are both grounded and flexible. You adapt well to new situations.
You are playful and free spirited – but you are also dependable and never flaky.

You don’t do well in conservative, stuffy situations.
It’s probably very hard for you to keep a normal job or stay in school.

You are always up for fun and adventure. Most people are too boring for you.
You take risks and bend the rules. And if things don’t work out, you chock it up to life experience.

In love, you tend to take things quickly – but you have a huge problem with commitment.

At work, you need to make your own rules. You’re best suited to be an entrepreneur.

With others, you are animated and physical. You prefer doing something with friends to just hanging out.

As far as your looks go, you tend to be buff and in good shape. Your spend more time on your body than your clothes.

On weekends, you need to keep active. From cooking up a storm to running a 5K, you wear yourself out.

The Three Question Personality Test

Hang in there, Canada!

From Planet Out:

Canada leaders ousted; heated races loom
Ann Rostow, PlanetOut Network
Tuesday, November 29, 2005 / 03:27 PM

The Canadian House of Commons has brought down the government of Prime Minister Paul Martin, passing a vote of no confidence Monday night in a 171-133 tally. The move forces new elections, and same-sex marriage may be a controversial campaign issue.

On Tuesday, Martin dissolved the Parliament and scheduled elections for Jan. 23. According to the Canadian Broadcasting Corporation, campaigning will be suspended during the holidays, from Dec. 23 to Jan. 3.

Martin’s downfall is not likely to undermine Canada’s national policy of marriage equality, cemented by Parliament last June by a 158-133 vote. Nonetheless, some Conservative Party members and other opponents of marriage equality plan to feature appeals to traditional marriage in their upcoming electoral fights.

In a signal of the campaigns to come, Conservative Party leader Stephen Harper has already promised to hold another parliamentary vote on same-sex marriage if his bloc comes to power. The pledge drew sharp words from Canada’s LGBT rights group, Egale.

“Canadians want Parliament to deal with pressing issues like health care, education and the environment,” said Egale Executive Director Gilles Marchildon. “They don’t want Parliament to spend time debating something that’s already been settled, both by the courts and by Parliament itself.”

Harper’s threat may be only that. Conservatives lag slightly in the polls, and there is no reason to believe that another marriage vote would go against same-sex couples. Further, marriage equality in Canada is an outgrowth of high court rulings throughout most of the provinces that cannot be rolled back by simple legislative action. Lastly, as Egale reports, some 66 percent of Canadians tell the CBC that the question of same-sex marriage is settled and should not be revisited.

Martin’s Liberal Party now holds a plurality of the 308 House seats, with 133. Conservatives hold 98 seats, the Bloc Quebecois represents another 53, while the New Democratic Party has 18. Four seats are held by independents, and two are vacant.

Although the Liberals lost their outright majority in the election of June 2004, Martin and associates have governed with the support of the New Democrats, forming a coalition that was shattered over the last year by revelations of a kickback scheme that fed public funds back into Liberal coffers. While Martin himself was not accused of any wrongdoing, his party took a blow.

Corruption aside, the Liberal Party has led Canada to a budget surplus, the lowest unemployment in three decades and, of course, the legalization of same-sex marriage by parliamentary vote. That vote, held after two years of political wrangling, was engineered to unite the country after several provincial courts ruled in favor of marriage equality. It was preceded by a Canadian Supreme Court advisory opinion that same-sex marriage conformed to the Charter of Rights and Freedoms, the Canadian equivalent of the U.S. Bill of Rights.

According to the CBC, the Liberals and the Conservatives are running nearly neck-and-neck in the polls, with Liberals favored by 35 percent, Conservatives by 30 percent and New Democrats by 20 percent. As its name suggests, the Bloc Quebecois is the party of choice throughout the province of Quebec, leading analysts to anticipate another fractured electorate. The Liberals are expected to campaign on the strong economy, while Conservatives will stress integrity, change and traditional values.

What a day

I checked out my site meter today and had a new bloggers’ orgasm. To go from 20 visitors a day to about 400 seemed odd, but exciting (all you vets out there must think I’m shaking like a virgin). Thanks to Nathan’s new link and mention of the site and a reference on “How Was Your Day, Dan?”, everyone was dropping by and reading about Peanut Boy at Burning Man. I have to say that after reading the story yesterday about the teen girl dying in Quebec due to a combination of a severe peanut allergy and kissing, I felt lucky that Jasper was fine. I doubt the str8 boy will ever kiss a gay man again, but he survived kissing a middle-aged man wearing sailor pants, a jester hat, a stunning faux fur hip-length coat, and no shirt who had eaten half a pail of cashews.

I also had my 4 1/2 year-old goddaughter over to the house to decorate the tree. Here it is tonight after a frenzied hanging of balls and throwing of garland (now that’s gay-sounding, isn’t it?). And, her 1 1/2 year-old sister kept busy hiding all the tree ribbons and daring to smash my red balls on the tile. Anyway, the holidays are all about kids and I’m thankful to have them come over.

We also installed the 8-foot inflatable snowman out in the front yard. By the end of the week, my house will be adorned with moving and lit reindeer, icicle lights, various plastic lighted Xmas trees, and people (I have two major holiday parties coming up at the house). It will look like Santa’s Village in Jefferson, NH where I used to frolick as a child.

Here’s a pic of the snowman. Or is it me at last year’s White Party in Miami?

I didn’t make it to the gym tonight. I’ve been pretty diligent about doing something on my body everyday. But instead I sit here devouring peanuts. Must be yesterday’s news subconsciously dwelling on my brain. Nutty.

Ryan Reynolds – more yums

Just one more look at Ryan Reynolds – the ultimate straight guy I want in my bed. Yummy. Could it be the cut abs, pecs, and arms? Absolutely.

Random blog of the day: “Nathan Exposed”

Before I ever started blogging over a month ago, I enjoyed reading blogs of others in the gay community. I guess the lack of a young gay community here in Santa Fe led me to see what others my age are doing out there in gay-land. Nathan Exposed is a blog most similar to what I strive to create. Thanks, too, Nathan for linking to my itty-bitty blog from your well-known one. Nathan’s blog is a fave of mine.

Nathan writes:

“This is the naked truth about my gay life. Everything here is raw, honest, and uncensored. You can expect a variety of drama and comedy. This is a journey through my inner self.”

Since my blog mission statement is ever-evolving, Nathan’s serves as a good model about why I do my own blog. My friends think I’m crazy. Many don’t understand why someone would spill their guts on the internet. But “Turning Forty” has helped me express myself a lot more openly to my friends and family because it is an outlet, not unsimilar to group therapy (in a way). I get feedback and support from readers, I vent what I’m feeling at any given moment, and it is fucking cheaper than therapy!

So, as I’ve mentioned over at Nathan Exposed, his blog is a great model of what I am trying to do. Since I watched Johnny Carson as a tyke/teenager in the ’70s and ’80s, I’ve always wanted to be a talk show host. This is better! I have noone to answer to but me.

Please go visit Nathan Exposed. Plus, we’re both very dirty (NC-17).

NO NUTS: this hits way too close to home

This story hits WAY too close to home. I almost killed someone this way.

Teen with peanut allergy dies after kiss
November 28, 2005

SAGUENAY, Quebec –A 15-year-old girl with a peanut allergy died after kissing her boyfriend, who had just eaten a peanut butter snack, hospital officials said Monday.

Christina Desforges died in a Quebec hospital Wednesday after doctors were unable to treat her allergic reaction to the kiss the previous weekend.

Desforges, who lived in Saguenay, about 155 miles north of Quebec City, was almost immediately given a shot of adrenaline, a standard tool for treating the anaphylactic shock brought on by a peanut allergy, officials said.

An autopsy was being performed. Dr. Nina Verreault, an allergist at the Chicoutimi Hospital in Saguenay, declined to comment on the case.

The symptoms of peanut allergy can include hives, plunging blood pressure and swelling of the face and throat, which can block breathing.

Peanut allergies have been rising in recent decades. The reason remains unclear but one study found that baby creams or lotions with peanut oil may cause children to develop allergies later in life.

About 1.5 million Americans are severely allergic to even the smallest trace of peanuts and peanut allergies account for 50 to 100 deaths in the United States each year. Canadian figures were not immediately available.

Random pic of the day: Me

With several inches of snow hitting Santa Fe last night, the ski season bug has hit me. With this renewed inkling to tumble down the Rocky Mountains (as I usually do), here’s a shot of me from last year’s Outboard.

The storm was sudden. Me and my new boyfriend were at a cocktail party. When we got there at 8:30, there was nothing in the air. By 10:30 when we left, I could barely drive back into Santa Fe. Ugh! Although I love winter sports, the thoughts of cold and frosty mornings and shoveling snow sends shivers through me.

That’s why we all go to beach vacations.